Many of us fear being too happy. Some of us fear being happy, period! If you ask yourself why this is, you may say, “I am afraid of being too happy because I don’t want to be disappointed.” I have heard all kinds of answers to this question, but many seem to follow that rationale, including this big one dealing with relationships: “I am afraid he (she) is not the One.” Let me suggest a different reason why people fear happiness, and how you can confront this fear and let more happiness into your life. Continue reading
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Humans do things. This is an obvious observation, but an important one. We never just sit idle — even when it appears we are doing nothing. We breathe, think, move around, look at things, listen to things, work, play, talk, etc. We are always doing something. The challenge is to find happiness in what you do, no matter what it is.
The challenge is to find happiness in what you do, no matter what it is.
Humans are social by nature, and our mind-bodies have evolved in such a way that when we help each other we become happier. It is in our nature to build secure relationships with each other. One of the most important ways of connecting with others, even perfect strangers, is to focus on their needs. As we feel more connected, and as we act in ways that help build and maintain secure relationships, we become happier. The four main ways we focus on the needs of others are by practicing selflessness, charity, compassion and forgiveness.
The four main ways we focus on the needs of others are by practicing selflessness, charity, compassion and forgiveness.
The biggest question we face as humans is, why are we here? What is our purpose? To become a happier person, you should try to answer this question for yourself. I take my cue on this from the Dalai Lama who said, “The purpose of your life is to be happy!” This may sound selfish, unrealistic or even wrong to some people. But I think it is true. The purpose of life is to be happy. Continue reading
Happiness does not exist in the past and it does not exist in the future. It exists right now. To be happy, you have to be here now to experience it. If your attention is on what happened to you in the past, or what may happen in the future, you will not be in the present – and happiness will elude you. Regular meditation is the most powerful tool we have for keeping attention in the “now.”
Regular meditation is the most powerful tool we have for keeping attention in the “now.”
To be happy, you have to choose to be happy, regardless of your life situation. You need to choose happiness as if your life depends on it because, in reality, it does. If your ability to live a more successful, longer and healthier life depends on being happy, then you always need to choose it. Even if your life is not what you want it to be, and it seems irrational to do so, you still have to choose happiness. Continue reading