Loneliness and Discomfort, Moving Towards Relationship

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Today, many people are alone either by choice or circumstance. Given the way society and culture is today, with people constantly uprooting and moving from one place to another, it would be a lot easier if we could be just as happy alone as with other people. For most of us, though, being alone means being lonely. When we are lonely we often have feelings of discomfort around people we do not know. These feelings make it difficult to connect with others, when connection is the only real cure for loneliness. It may be possible to overcome feelings of discomfort, and improve the ability to reconnect with others through meditation. Continue reading

Number 11: The Loneliness Gene in the Digital Age

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We evolved to have secure relationships with others. When these relationships are threatened, we are genetically programmed to feel the pain of loneliness. In the same way that the feelings of hunger or thirst tell us to find food and water, the feeling of loneliness tells us to find people to be with. The types of relationships we are used to today are not the same as when we were evolving, due in part to the qualities of the digital age. Loneliness is on the rise. We need new approaches to overcoming loneliness. Continue reading

Number 10: The Myth of the “One” – Building a Deep Intimate Relationship

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The fantasy about the perfect “One,” waiting for each of us somewhere, makes for good romance novels. But, it is not real. Still, I think that for all of us there exists at last a tiny thought that there is One out there; there is an Ideal person. This idea can come between us and the people we are intimate with. Set against the perfection of the One, everybody falls a little short. However, if you learn to communicate with another person heart-to-heart and soul-to-soul, you can give up the fictional ideal and learn to experience the wonder of the person you are with. Continue reading

How to Be Happy – Video

 

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This video teaches you how to be happier right now, so that you can start enjoying  better relationships, better health, more success and a longer life, all from learning how to be happier.  It shows you how you can be happier without anything else changing in your life.

The premise of this video is that happiness is natural to us. It is already inside of us waiting to be released. We only have to turn our attention to it. Like a light switch, we only have to learn to turn it on, and keep it turned on.

Real happiness does not depend on the circumstances of your life. You can be happier, right now, without anything changing in your life. If everything in your life is going great, you can be happy. If everything in your life is going wrong, you can be happy. Rich, poor, old, young, male, female, blue-collar, white-collar, pink-collar, no-collar, you can be happy.

Learning to be happy may be the most important thing we can do in life. It may even be the purpose in life. What psychologists have found is that compared to those who are not happy, happy people have better relationships and better health, they are more successful, and they live longer.

Children are born happy, and we expect see them playing and being happy. We do not expect so much happiness when we leave childhood. However, the power to be naturally happy that we knew as children is still there; it never left. This aim of this video is to help you find it again.

 

 

 

 

Number 9: Confronting the Fear of Happiness

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Many of us fear being too happy. Some of us fear being happy, period! If you ask yourself why this is, you may say, “I am afraid of being too happy because I don’t want to be disappointed.” I have heard all kinds of answers to this question, but many seem to follow that rationale, including this big one dealing with relationships: “I am afraid he (she) is not the One.” Let me suggest a different reason why people fear happiness, and how you can confront this fear and let more happiness into your life. Continue reading

Number 6: Find Happiness Through Selflessness, Charity, Compassion and Forgiveness

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Photo(c)Brian Jackson/DollarPhoto.com

Humans are social by nature, and our mind-bodies have evolved in such a way that when we help each other we become happier. It is in our nature to build secure relationships with each other. One of the most important ways of connecting with others, even perfect strangers, is to focus on their needs. As we feel more connected, and as we act in ways that help build and maintain secure relationships, we become happier. The four main ways we focus on the needs of others are by practicing selflessness, charity, compassion and forgiveness.

The four main ways we focus on the needs of others are by practicing selflessness, charity, compassion and forgiveness.

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Number 8: The Purpose of Life is to Be Happy

god-adam-sistine-chapel---learn-to-be-happyThe biggest question we face as humans is, why are we here? What is our purpose? To become a happier person, you should try to answer this question for yourself. I take my cue on this from the Dalai Lama who said, “The purpose of your life is to be happy!” This may sound selfish, unrealistic or even wrong to some people. But I think it is true. The purpose of life is to be happy. Continue reading